Seeing your spouse suffer is a terrible thing. You want to make things better. You want to take away the hurt.
So much of the time, though, you can’t. Or at least not fast enough, and not to the degree you’d like.
A recent post on Marriage Gems references the book HEALING TOGETHER: A COUPLE’S GUIDE TO COPING WITH TRAUMA AND POST-TRAUMATIC STRESS. Marriage Gems quotes the authors of the book as saying, “Trauma puts up a wall that for a time locks a couple out of their familiar world and leaves them frozen in the traumatic event. Suddenly there is no past, and the future feels impossible.”
God, can I relate.